Posted by
Gary A McAvin on Friday, December 29, 2006 6:40:38 AM
With the “new” report on pre-marital sex, the news media would have you believe that everyone does IT! Not necessarily true! However; this fast paced want it now generation cannot seem to stabilize. They are always looking for the next big thing, and moving on very quickly in their relationships with the opposite sex. “Hooking-up” is only for the pleasure of the moment. When this brief encounter is over, it’s on to the next relationship. No wonder the love as generations past knew it; has now become cold ineffectual and meaningless. However; the accuracy of this report should be questioned!
Parental guidance can be the psychological imprint the children follow. If the parents are cold and unresponsive in their relationship towards one another, the children will mimic this pattern. All parents must show love and genuine affection for each other. The children see this good healthy relationship and will remember it, and hopefully copy it in their own marriage.
Marriage between one man and one woman are discouraged by the phenomenal divorce rate in America. Over 50% are doomed from the start. Why do you suppose that is? Children without proper parental guidance and examples have nowhere to turn, or anyone they can look up to, if their parents fail them in teaching stability in relationships. Now it would seem that love affairs only last for a brief duration of time. The couple meet, jump into a sexual tryst, and them move on to the next one very rapidly. When asked by one of the paramours about their relationship or love affair, they causally respond with, “oh! That was yesterday or last week, or I have already moved on! Get over it!
When the world was a more innocent place to dwell, and when sex was not being pushed and presented as the only thing the world needs to focus on, relationships endured. When a boy or girl met, it was usually in school or church. They met while attending one of these institutions and developed a friendship for several years prior to actually dating. Then this relationship gradually moved towards making it permanent through marriage. Thus the old response to who did you marry question becomes, “I married my childhood sweetheart.” Those marriages usually lasted a lifetime.
Today’s obsession with sex and high-speed relationships has definitely wreaked havoc on this generation’s stability. With the number of unmarried mothers at an all time high, where is any responsibility for these uncontrolled actions seen or taken? When a young girl becomes pregnant the responsible party should be forced to take responsibility. If the responsible party is negligent in their duties, society then pays for everything through the taxpayer funded organizations, i.e. welfare! Should we as a society pay for other people’s misdeeds and sins? If we were the contributing factor, I’d say yes, but; many of us do not in any way contribute to these children’s delinquency!
We certainly need good parental examples for future generations. The open explicit attitude to quick relationships and sex galore needs to be stopped. If responsibility can be taught and enforced, these children have a chance to be productive giving people. Tomorrow’s generations really have nothing to look forward to if promiscuity continues and escalates.
Personally; I would question the validity of this so-called pre-marital sexual activity report. I seriously do not believe the results. They would have you believe that everyone (well almost everyone) is participating in sex prior to marriage! Do you remember the Kinsey Report? They would have you believe that everyone masturbates and are nothing but sexual perverts at heart! The real truth came out later that the generators and participators of the Kinsey Report were sexual deviates themselves. So don’t believe everything you hear or read concerning these so-called sex reports!